Most people will agree that being a mother is work. Children are a blessing, and we love them very much, but sometimes they are pretty inconvenient. Especially if you, like me, are that hybrid of the stay at home mother and the working outside the home parent, the work at home mum.
Last night my husband and I sat down to watch a movie. Its run time was 1:30. It took us 3 hours to finish it. Why? Because of the little people who live in our house. They ebb and flow around us, asking questions, and for help with the potty and the light switch, and cutting up an apple, and so on, and on. This is life with three children under 6, and we are used to it, and we enjoy it most of the time.
Today I sat down to sew. And what should have taken 1 ½ hours took three. I got cranky and frustrated. This morning while I was writing this post my baby crawled under the desk and flipped the switch on the surge strip (it does have a blinking red light in the switch, so, really, who could blame him?), prompting a small tantrum (from me) and a rewrite.
I felt happy and relaxed after finishing the oft interrupted movie; I felt frustrated and snappish when I was done with my sewing. The difference was I planned for the interruptions in the movie; I didn’t plan on any while I was sewing. I wanted to get in the zone and stay there. But you know what? I can’t have it all. I cannot be at home with my kids full time and work full time at the same time.
I have chosen a compromise and I need to own it.
The interruptions my kids cause are a normal part of being a work at home mother.
So what will happen if I start viewing the interruptions my children create in my work schedule as expected and routine? Start estimating the time that projects will take including interruptions? Start scheduling my work around them instead of the other way around? I don’t know yet, but I am certain it will be better than what I am doing now.
What I don’t get is, why has it taken me so long to figure this out?