I am a planner. I like to think things out, make plans, and have a sense of what my life looks like down the road. I like the sense of security that comes with knowing that things are working out, and it somehow makes me feel like my life is on track. I feel like I have purpose and am being intentional with the path I’m choosing to take. But I’m realizing that planning can be kind of silly.
Yes, you heard right. The planner is starting to realize that planning is silly. As much as I think there is value in having drive and motivation, it doesn’t mean that I have to have it all figured out down to the last detail, and guess what? Neither do you!
A couple of a weeks ago my boss brought me into her office on a Thursday, offered me a new position, and gave me less than 24 hours to make up my mind. The planner in me was freaking out! I hadn’t planned this! A really great opportunity was thrown at me, I wasn’t expecting it, I hadn’t planned for it, but I would have been really silly not to take it. Life is pretty good at disrupting those plans we make, because really, life just happens. So I realized that jumping at an opportunity I didn’t plan for doesn’t mean I don’t know what I’m doing, it just means that I don’t have everything figured out- but life shall carry on.
It’s amazing to me the negative self-talk I used to throw at myself when I didn’t feel like I had enough planned in my life:
“You’re not doing enough.”
“You’re disappointing others.”
“You need to try harder.”
And I’ve realized that in letting go of my planning a bit, I’m able to be a lot kinder to myself. These days I try and tell myself things like:
“You are doing enough.”
“You are enough.”
“People love and support you.”
Making plans doesn’t make us less vulnerable, it just closes us off to opportunity and growth. So let go a little.
Trust me, it’s worth it.