We all know we shouldn’t care what other people think about our decisions.
The vast majority of us still twinge with the thought that someone could misunderstand our motivations or question our preferences. I do.
I am, by nature, a fairly intuitive person. I detect quite a bit of below-the-radar information that is flying about in conversation or lack thereof. Most of it is good information. It helps me stay engaged, understand where things are going, and stay ahead of the game.
However not all this information is helpful.
Whenever I start to believe that I know what someone else is thinking in terms of me, I lose.
I let that perception get in my way. I assume many things and start to operate on my assumptions.
I’ve tried over & over again to reprogram that behavior by reminding myself that it doesn’t matter what other people think. It only matters that I’m true to me and my own values. But I’m a people pleaser. I always want to have the right answer, the shared interest, the story that lets you know I understand.
But here’s is my aha! realization from the last year or so… When pricing, emailing, having coffee, making an offer, buying, selling, tweeting, texting, talking, laughing:
It’s not about learning how to not to care what others think. It’s about understanding that you don’t know.
You just don’t know what others think. You might think you know. But you don’t.
You don’t know what others think. You don’t know how they’ll react when confronted with your most true beliefs & desires.
Be true to you and allow others to be true to themselves.
You tell me: do you care what others think? How do you reconcile that with your actions?