The Best Valentine You’ll Ever Have? Yourself.

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Lately I keep hearing people mutter about Valentine’s Day as they roll their eyes and talk as though it’s their least favorite day of the year. I suppose we’re all entitled to our own opinion, but it just doesn’t seem right that there could be so much negativity about a day dedicated to love.

It’s interesting, because it seems as though people decide their worth on this day, based on whether or not they’re attached at the hip. Yet, in my experience, my worst Valentine’s Days have been while in a relationship.

One year I sent my boyfriend on a scavenger hunt, with clues that I’d thoughtfully put together, that took him through various memories in our relationship. He chose to take me to a movie and scribbled some mushy words on a piece of notebook paper. I was crushed. No flowers? No chocolate? He couldn’t even spring for a card?

And that’s when I realized that there is such expectation on this day, and so many of us are crushed when people fail to appreciate us in the way we think they should.

So ever since then, I’ve promised myself that Valentine’s Day is not going to be defined by whether or not I’m in a relationship. Some of the best Valentine’s Days I’ve had have been while single because the only person I have any expectations of is myself. I get to choose what I do and who I do it with, and if I want flowers, well then I’m going to go out and buy them. I get to fill the day with as much self love as I want — entirely guilt free.

So, if you’re single or attached  this Valentine’s Day, I really encourage you to throw love your own way as well. I think we so often put so much energy into other people that we forget that we’re worthy of giving ourselves the same energy, attention, and love.

Be your own spark. Your own light. And radiate with love for yourself.

Tell me, what are you going to do to love yourself today?

Acute How-To: Lace and Doily Cups

I have a strong love for lace and doilies and this love is exemplified this time of year, when many stores are decked out in doily Valentine’s Day décor.

In honor of the upcoming holiday and my lace/doily obsession, I came up with a simple how-to that puts all my pieces of vintage lace and vintage doilies to good use.

Supplies needed:

  • Wide pieces of lace {I used some vintage pieces that were about 5” wide} and/or doilies {I collect these from antique and vintage shops….they can be really affordable at around $1 each}
  • Corn Starch
  • Plastic Wrap
  • Drinking glasses
  • Rubber Bands

Step One:

Bring one cup of water to a boil in a small saucepan.  While you are waiting for the water to boil, mix together ¼ cup of cornstarch with ½ cup of cold water.

Step Two:

When the one cup of water has begun to boil, mix in the water/cornstarch and stir until the mixture thickens {this will take about 30 seconds}.  The mixture will be the consistency of thick gravy.  Turn off the heat and pour the cornstarch mixture into a large bowl.  Allow this to cool for about 30 minutes.

Step Three:

Flip your drinking glasses upside down and cover with pieces of plastic wrap.  Use rubber bands to hold the plastic wrap in place.

Step Four:

Submerge the pieces of lace into the cornstarch and water mixture and then wring out excess moisture.  Drape one piece of lace over each plastic wrap covered glass base.  Smooth the lace down and then secure it with a second rubber band.

If you are also making doily cups, follow the same steps.  I used a small bowl turned upside down for my doily since it was much larger than the pieces of lace.

Step Five:

Allow the lace/doilies to dry for about five hours and then carefully remove the rubber bands and peel the lace away from the glasses.

I think these little cups would make a lovely centerpiece – especially if they are filled with tea light candles.  Or, you could use them as the base for place cards at your wedding or dinner party.

V-Day Art that will Look Great all Year Long

Happy Valentine’s Day everyone.

V-Day: The strange (yet interesting) “holiday” where you give something heart-shaped or chocolatey to the ones you love. Now, I realize there is more to it than that. I am generalizing just a tiny bit. But if you are already going to pick something up for loved ones anyway, why not get them something they can appreciate year round? Something like, oh I don’t know, art?

No surprise the crazy art lady is at it again- suggesting you pick up a unique original or lovey-dovey print. But I really do think its a good idea. In fact, it’s a great idea. But there’s just one tiny little problem. Today is actually Valentine’s Day (remember I mentioned that earlier), so why would I be advocating that you pick these up now?

I Love You More than Chocolate $15 + Ampersand Love Screenprint $13.50

Well, it may be true that these pieces have a bit of V-Day fever to them, BUT each piece would also look great year-round in your home. And after today, it won’t really seem like a Valentine’s Day print anyway. So, there’s no “deadline” really. I mean, how can you put a time limit on gifts? Or art? Or home decor?

And if I still haven’t convinced you, I hope this will at least inspire you in the way that you think about future gift-giving holidays: practical meets awesome (meets art) is always a good way to go if you’re stuck.

We Met In… Original Handcrafted Map Cutout $37

Valentine Butterfly Heart $25 + 4-Ever Personalized Art Print $15

Now, I want to know what you think. Weigh in on this question in the comments below:

Would you want to give or receive artwork on special occasions and holidays like today?

a {not-so} secret valentine

kiss in the grass
kiss by adam holz

it’s almost valentine’s day. i’m not real sappy… don’t put too much value on this one particular day. a girl gets her expectations up and then realizes that no man (or woman or any such thing) can read your mind to know exactly what kind of romance you’d like on this one special day. not to say that i don’t believe in true love, just not the kind of true love that culminates in a 24 hour love fest.

but kelly diels, who writes a blog – cleavage – i think you should all check out when you’re feeling sassy, gave a challenge to write a secret, or not-so-secret, valentine. i thought, maybe at this particular point in my life, this particular valentine’s day, that’s exactly what i need to do.

holga kiss by flyingboots!
kiss by flyingboots!

dear scoutie boy:

things have been rough. we love our daughter madly but it has been hard to love each other. my heart has been tried to the point of breaking many, many times in the last 19 months. but we press on. i just want you to know that i have hope and a lot of love left to give.

and i know that you do to.

i’m not going to expect a knight in shining armor anymore and i hope you can lower your expectations a bit too, and we can just expect to communicate & be friends. with friendly kisses and laughter and love.

we can learn a new set of expectations together and grow as husband & wife, mom & dad. together.

love always,
your scoutie girl

love is actually all around
love is actually all around by catbagan

do you need to write a secret valentine this year? think about what your heart most needs to say. and maybe write it down. or create it.

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and the winner of the ape zoppa giveaway is….

Sandy J
i would love to give it to a friend of mine who just give birth…
she deserve to feel beautiful…
and she gave birth….i can give her harclips !!! :P

sandy, shoot me a quick email to claim your prize! scout AT scoutiegirl DOT com

that’s all for this week! i’m on a long weekend trip to pittsburgh to visit my sister-in-law. i’m also getting a lovely crafty tour of the city from my friend carrie, from i made it! market. i’ll be back on monday with – hopefully – some pics from that tour and a week devoted to the concept of success.

how do you define success? what is your measure of success? are you afraid of success, of failure? what stops have you made on the journey to success? tell me your story & your opinions!