Defeating Resistance: Make It A Game

Move through resistance; embrace momentum.

Sometimes I need to trick myself into getting things done.

In my last post I suggested that you identify your next right action, then do it. Seems obvious enough, yes? Yet many of us wait months before we finally clean out the closet, organize the studio, or start writing the book.

Here’s a trick: make it a game. Challenge yourself.

These are three tools I use games I play when procrastination or resistance stop me from doing the things I want to do:

The 5-Day Challenge

This tool was born out of creative resistance. When my painting practice takes a back seat for too long, I challenge myself to show up at the art table and paint, five days in a row. It doesn’t matter for how long each day, and it doesn’t matter if I finish anything. It’s about showing up.

Want to eat healthier fare? Commit to eating your daily fruits & veggies, five days in a row. Resisting that novel? Show up at the keyboard five days in a row and write; forget word counts and perfect paragraphs. Craving more sleep? Go to bed one hour earlier, five days in a row.

Bonus points: Declare your intention to someone else and report back daily.

The 15-Minute Sprint

The 15-Minute Sprint is simple, yet effective: set a a timer and spend 15 minutes doing x, where x is writing, organizing your finances, researching your next project… whatever task is weighing on your mind.

It’s astonishing what you can achieve in just 15 focused minutes.

This game helped me transform my overflowing spice cupboard into a thing of glory in one, single round. It’s that powerful.

Bonus points: Combine the 15-Minute Sprint with the 5-Day Challenge. Pledge to dedicate at least fifteen focused minutes, five days in a row, working on your chosen task, and follow through.

The One-A-Day

Aptly named, this tool is best used with an expiration date or a specific state of completion. For example:

  • “I will add one listing a day to the online shop until all my finished pieces are listed.”
  • “I will build one page a day on my new website until I am ready to launch. I will be ready to launch when these five pages are complete: Blog, About, Contact, Shop, Resources.”
  • “This week, I will clean one drawer or cupboard a day.”

You could simply commit to a new daily practice (“I will write one paragraph a day.”), but the danger there is that it’s too easy to fall off the wagon if you miss a day.

Sometimes it’s best to keep it neat, tidy and time-boxed. Set yourself up for success.

Three games, three effective ways to move through resistance and embrace momentum.

Are you ready to play?

plugging the holes: what’s holding you back?

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They leak.
They leach.
They keep you comfortable,
but anxious.
They don’t let you grow.

They’re holes.

Holes in your attention, focus, strategy, stamina.

Wee ones. Gaping ones. Some that you invite daily, others that crept in.

Where are the holes in your life? Your business?

Where are you losing energy, opportunities, relationships, dollars?

Is it…?
social media
lack of planning
lack of execution
lack of support
fear of failure
scattered focus
poor prioritization
social commitments
family obligations
low energy
poor health

Today, make a commitment to identify the holes in your work & life.

This week, commit to make changes around one. Find a plug that fits, and do your best to keep it in place.

How will you plug the holes that are holding you back?

Brainstorm in the comments below.

Gathering light,

Like a Rolling Stone: Finding Momentum with Goddess Leonie

goddess leonieEach week, I receive at least a dozen emails, comments, and tweets asking the same question: How do you do it?

One big part of the answer is momentum. I concentrate on creating, sustaining, and then releasing momentum.

So does Goddess Leonie. That’s how she’s built a BIG business around art, empowerment, and spirituality. She’s no snake oil saleswoman, either. This lady has the skills to coax out your inner Goddess, liberate your creative muscle, and spin out your own momentum.

Which means I just had to talk to her for round 2 of The Art of Action! By the way, join me for a FREE live preview of The Art of Action, my digital coaching program, tomorrow. Click here to get all the details!

Goddess Leonie

Below, you’ll find an excerpt from our interview:

TARA: Let’s talk a little bit about momentum. You strike me as a person who has a great deal of momentum. You kind of see success and good fortune as the ticket to more success and good fortune as opposed to an excuse to kind of get lazy. Would you say that’s accurate?

LEONIE: Absolutely. And, you know, I think the thing is, I love my job. I love creating. It’s my hobby, it’s my dream come true. If I wasn’t getting paid for it, I’d still be doing it. So, just to create is a total joy. The success & abundance that comes after it and from it that’s icing on the cake.

I just want to dive back into creating again and create something new. I’ve got, you know, like 70 ideas for the next thing I want to create. And I’m thinking, I just need to get it all done. I just want to create. It’s going to be so fun.

TARA: So do you have any tips or advice, or just a sense of how you actually go about cultivating that sense of momentum in your job and in your life? I know you said you love what you do but are there any kind of tactics or strategies that you use to keep your brain moving in that forward direction?

LEONIE: Totally. I don’t allocate a large amount of time to projects because the projects that I let germinate and marinate, they’re still not done. I’ve got an oracle card deck I started three years ago that I’ve been teasing out. And now it’s just a ginormous pain in my ass because I just want it done. And, it needs to be out there and yet the more time you give to something, the less momentum it has.

I don’t allocate a large amount of time to projects because the projects that I let germinate and marinate, they’re still not done. The more time you give to something, the less momentum it has.

TARA: Yes, I totally agree.

LEONIE: So I must prefer just setting a date and going, “It needs to be done by this time.” You work your butt off to get it done – I call it riding a wild donkey.

A donkey of any idea turns up and you just ride it until it’s done. Until it can go out into the world again. For example, I created my 2010 workbook, which is, you know, a really popular resource of mine. I took three days from the idea coming to me until I sent it out into the world. I just, you know, it came, I did it. I worked my butt off. Came about Christmas time and it was out before New Years.

You just ride the wave of inspiration and work your butt off and ignore everything else while it happens. And you know, for mothers you can’t totally ignore all existence of course. Everybody’s got responsibilities and blah, blah, blah. But you can still ride wild donkeys. For example, I had an ebook that I needed to finish by last week and I just knew that the amount of time that I got to have on the computer and the time I need to look after my daughter, that just wasn’t going to measure up.

And so my daughter and I ended up creating the ebook together by painting on paper at our veranda using non-toxic watercolors. And, you know, she messed up that ebook great! It was torn and she sat on it and she painted all over it and it looked glorious. It was so gorgeous.

Really. You have to let some things give and let miracles flow through you. Just let life happen, you know? So that’s what we did and that’s how I got more stuff done. And it was so much fun that we’re not painting our first kids book together. So, why not?

You have to let some things give and let miracles flow through you.

TARA: Beautiful. I love that you didn’t…despite the fact that you realized that you really didn’t have enough time, you didn’t negotiate on your deadline for yourself at all. I think that’s so important. People look at people like you and like me and they see us get things done really really fast and they attribute that to, you know, all the other stuff that’s going on in our lives.

Okay, so we’ve got stay at home dads, great. Yeah, that’s true. We’ve got this, we’ve got that, and that’s all fine and good, but, you know, we have other liabilities as well and sometimes it just comes down to setting that deadline and working with the deadline you’ve given yourself. And don’t give yourself an extension, you make it happen. I love that.

LEONIE: The best way to do it is to say that something begins at a certain date and what you don’t have finished then just, you know, make it happen.

TARA: Yes. I’m familiar with that.

LEONIE: A month ago I announced that my Become a Business Goddess ecourse was going to start on May 1. And I was like, “this will be plenty of time for me to get it finished, you know, and work its magic.” And, of course, life gets in the way. My daughter and I have both had two rounds of chest infections in a month, which just has been fun.

But, you know, still that ecourse will be done. I just work my magic. When she’s napping, I’m working. And I don’t think about anything else. I, you know, am not doing a maximum amount of social media, I’m not doing a maximum amount of blogging at the moment because I’ve got something to finish.

TARA: Right. And, you know, if we had “real jobs,” we’d have these kind of deadlines, too and we’d have to put that amount of time and that amount of energy and that much thought into what we were doing. And I think people think, “okay, if you build something for yourself, you get to cut yourself a lot of slack.” And that’s just not the case.

LEONIE: Yeah, don’t do that. Just get stuff done. Send it out into the world. Things feel so much better and so much more free flowing when you just let the idea come through you. Pour it out with whatever you have at that time and let it flow out into the world because, you know, I so believe our ideas need to be in this world to give to the people whatever they need to hear at that time.

Things feel so much better and so much more free flowing when you just let the idea come through you.

I’m not a big believer in stopping up that flow of inspiration and divine guidance and wisdom coming through you. Just let it go through you and let it go out. It feels so much better that way. The more you create, the more just comes through and creates through you. It’s just a wonderful experience.

The more you create, the more just comes through and creates through you. It’s just a wonderful experience.

Visit Goddess Leonie on her blog, follow her on Twitter, or check out her new Become a Business Goddess ecourse.

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