Working at Home? You Can’t Have it All

artwork by Mother and Three Sons – click for info

Most people will agree that being a mother is work. Children are a blessing, and we love them very much, but sometimes they are pretty inconvenient. Especially if you, like me, are that hybrid of the stay at home mother and the working outside the home parent, the work at home mum.

Last night my husband and I sat down to watch a movie. Its run time was 1:30. It took us 3 hours to finish it. Why? Because of the little people who live in our house. They ebb and flow around us, asking questions, and for help with the potty and the light switch, and cutting up an apple, and so on, and on. This is life with three children under 6, and we are used to it, and we enjoy it most of the time.

Today I sat down to sew. And what should have taken 1 ½ hours took three. I got cranky and frustrated. This morning while I was writing this post my baby crawled under the desk and flipped the switch on the surge strip (it does have a blinking red light in the switch, so, really, who could blame him?), prompting a small tantrum (from me) and a rewrite.

I felt happy and relaxed after finishing the oft interrupted movie; I felt frustrated and snappish when I was done with my sewing. The difference was I planned for the interruptions in the movie; I didn’t plan on any while I was sewing. I wanted to get in the zone and stay there. But you know what? I can’t have it all.  I cannot be at home with my kids full time and work full time at the same time.

I have chosen a compromise and I need to own it.

The interruptions my kids cause are a normal part of being a work at home mother.

So what will happen if I start viewing the interruptions my children create in my work schedule as expected and routine? Start estimating the time that projects will take including interruptions? Start scheduling my work around them instead of the other way around? I don’t know yet, but I am certain it will be better than what I am doing now.

What I don’t get is, why has it taken me so long to figure this out?

Creative Biz Success ~ Rebecca Peragine

Rebecca

Can you take us on the journey of your creative career path so far? Was art always your calling?

I grew up in a creative environment, but I never thought art would be my calling. To be honest, I haven’t taken an art class since I was in middle school. I can’t exactly put my finger on where my technique comes from, I can only say that it’s fueled by what I feel I need to teach my own children.

When I have an important message, the design just kind of creates itself. It wasn’t until I became a mother that my art in its current form appeared. Before that, I owned a coffee shop in Mexico, which is where my entrepreneurial spirit and interest in global education came out. And that’s where I met my husband and started my family.

Could you ever see yourself having a ‘normal’ 9-5 job? Why/why not?

No, not anymore. I went from college graduate to business owner to stay at home mom to business owner once again. There were times that the challenges of being absolutely responsible would feel overwhelming, but in the end, the experience I’ve had raising my children and working from home outweigh the doubts and fears. It’s kind of what propelled me forward.

My husband is an entrepreneur too, and we’re both able to see our boys off to school and here when they come home. At this point in our lives, being available for our kids is what it’s all about.

When did you start focusing on making art for children, and why?

I started when my second child was born. My husband is Italian, I’m American, and we were living in Mexico, and I felt there was a real need for multi-cultural/multi-lingual art for children. So I started creating alphabet and number posters and selling them on Etsy. That’s where by hobby turned into a business.

Children Inspire Design ~ click for more info

Other parents expressed their need to help foster global and environmental education to their children, so my art kind of became a way to express that. Parents today really understand the importance of teaching their children compassion for the earth and all who inhabit it. Teaching through art is a great way to start.

How did you get involved in making art for philanthropic purposes?

I actually started with the giving before I began the art. When I lived in Mexico, we used my coffee shop as a place for local artists to sell their art. We lived in an area that didn’t offer anything like that at the time. When we saw that giving artisans exposure worked, we started hosting fundraisers.

That’s when it really clicked for me- I realized that using art to help the greater good was an easy, natural fit.

Do you believe that a person needs to have a certain set of characteristics – or a certain way of looking at the world – to become a successful creative entrepreneur?

I don’t think there’s a specific skill set to be an entrepreneur, but adaptability is certainly something that I’ve seen makes the difference. It’s important to be light and agile when starting up.

I’ve seen lots of people have great ideas, but start out investing too much money. I know this sounds crazy, but starting CID in a rough economy actually helped me. I had to do everything on my own with no financial help. It taught me the ins and outs of every part of my business. Those lessons are what helped me make it. Now, I’m grateful every time I get to pass off my accounting or inventory or customer service to someone else. It lets me focus on what I’m good at.

Children Inspire Design ~ Click for more info

Do you ever have doubts as to your future creative direction? Are there things you yearn to achieve, but haven’t yet found the time for?

Time? I never have enough time. I’m constantly coming up with ideas, too many sometimes. That’s probably my biggest weakness. My challenge is sticking with one idea and following through to the finish before I start something else up. I’m currently running 2 online shops, Children Inspire Design and more recently, Fresh Words Market.

The second line just launched 6 months ago and I’m already planning my next project, a brick and mortar children’s art studio/indie boutique. A place that fosters creativity in children through art AND a place to support mom indie artists.

What is one piece of advice you’d like to give fellow makers about running a successful indie business?

Plant little seeds – everyday. I’m not a very patient person and it took me a while to really understand the benefit of fostering all relationships and opportunities, no matter how small they seem. It’s the small blogs, the small retailers, the individual customers who can carry your brand the farthest.

I learned the hard way in the beginning; spent too much money on marketing that yielded no results and paid sales reps who didn’t perform. Individuals who appreciate indie businesses are very powerful advocates, especially mothers. Let their voices help you spread the word and soon enough you’ll see how powerful word of mouth can be.

And second (I know you said 1, but this is IMPORTANT), know exactly who you are – and who you aren’t. Know what you stand for. What you believe in. When you understand those things, you can communicate clearly. You’ll stand out or the crowd and make your mark.

Find Rebecca online ~ Children Inspire Design ~ Fresh Words Market

making the impossible possible: creating with kids featuring Rachel Denbow & Amanda Oaks

magic blueberry bears by zukzuk - click image to view more

Many new moms take advantage of the time their children are small to do amazing work of their own. Ya know, work that doesn’t involve pushing an 8 pound infant out of your nether regions and then nursing its every need for 3 years.

But many other moms look at the task of nurturing engaged, adjusted children as overwhelming enough without adding the stress and expectations of personal concerns like crafting, writing, or starting a business.

Trust me, I understand both sides. Both kinds of moms are heroines in my book.

Though, if you’re here – and you’re a newish mom, I’m willing to bet you’d like to start introducing some self-love, in the form of creative work, into your life.

So, instead of giving you any more crazy advice of my own, I asked two of the most productive moms I know to give me the low down on how they create for themselves while creating with their kids.

Rachel Denbow is the sassy vintage momma behind Smile & Wave and Amanda Oaks is the warmhearted advocate behind Kind Over Matter. Both have a baby and a bigger kid home with them full-time. Both do extraordinary work. What’s their secret?

Rachel & family via Flickr

I asked Rachel:

It’s obvious that you adore your kids and put them at the center of your world. But with all the creative goodness you produce, I’m thinking they play a part in it! How do you play with your kids in a way that builds your creative momentum?

Rachel said:

I think a lot of my project ideas come from imagining ways to make their lives more fun or their environments more conducive to creative play.

One wall of their new shared room was born out of my desire to bring home vintage chalkboards for them to draw on. What was a fun purchase for my kids on a few random occasions has now become a grand focal point in their room that not only looks interesting but is interactive.

My kids have given me the opportunity to work with materials and ideas I would have never had a reason to work with otherwise and in return, I hope I’m teaching them to think outside the box.

A ha! You don’t have to separate your making from your kids’ making. Making something beautiful, engaging, and full of expression is a family affair.

What works for you as a mom might just work for your kids too. No need to detach your creating from theirs.

Amanda & Mr. Kind Over Matter via Flickr

Might Amanda say something similar?

I knew she had a penchant for take camera phone pics – just like I do – so I thought perhaps she’d know of other fun ways to create when you can’t concentrate.

I asked:

What are some other easy things you do to kind of stretch your creativity when you can’t focus on a big task?

Amanda said, “I play.”

My kids are great facilitators to my creativity.

Watching them live and go like they do, how they play and playing with them daily, it totally stretches my imagination. Over the years I’ve unlocked different levels of my creativity by playing, by teaching myself things.

By playing with paint or paper, creating poetry, entertaining myself with graphics and web designs, they are all hobbies for me. I really think that most creative people are kids at heart.

I think that it’s my kids’ creativity that stretches mine in a way nothing else really can. Not only does it energize my creativity but it also keeps our lives joyful.

So when you’re stuck just walk away, give yourself time to play to rediscover the magic and what your passionate about and also the magic in your everyday. Because ultimately what we want to get to is our work becoming our play, right?

Right, Amanda. Sounds good to me!

Playing is part of the creative process. You can’t take yourself – or your art – too seriously when creating is a game.

So not only can we include our own creative time in our kids’ creative time but we can use their creativity to stretch our own. Beautiful!

lola - 2 1/2 years old

This is very similar to my own experience. While my work is generally done in the times I’m not actively parenting, I do find other ways of being creative and modeling a creative life when I am momming it up.

I’ve acquired 3 progressively more sophisticated cameras and numerous camera phone apps since Lola was born. My interest and skill (whatever is there…) definitely arises from the creative spark she has awakened in me. I have nearly 5,000 photos on my computer, most taken after her birth, almost all taken by me, the vast majority of which are pictures of her and our mutual environment.

It’s my work, it’s my play, it’s my creative outlet. Without her, it likely wouldn’t exist.

Our children and the amount of time we devote to them don’t need to be obstacles to our creating. They can be – and are – assets.

The child you created may just be the greatest asset to your own creativity.

The full interviews with Rachel & Amanda are part of The Art of Action, a digital program for finding your initiative & making big stuff happen. Click here to find out how to join this community.

Find Rachel on her blog and on Twitter.
Find Amanda on her blog and on Twitter.

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{ girls dress by mette via papernstitch }

Art as a Mirror

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Editor’s Note: Please keep in mind that this is Stephanie’s column and that the announcement in this post is hers and not mine!

PixieFlowers

Right now i’m creating something.

i’m not painting or sketching. i’m not even talking about making digital art or drafting a poem or short story. Nope.

i’m building a person!

Yep, i am expecting. And it is turning my creativity on its ear! i am definitely a person whose creativity is deeply affected by my current life experience. You can pretty much look at the history of my creative endeavors and know exactly what was going on in my life at the time.

Art is a true mirror to my world.

Right now, for whatever reason, i am on a little girls’ artwork kick. (and no, i do not know if i am having a boy or a girl)

Everyone and their mother has been telling me they think the little muffin in the oven is a girl. And despite my efforts to ignore the hype, its sinking in a bit. i find myself collaborating on little dresses featuring some of my artwork. Many thanks to Lil Blue Boo.

LBBdresses

i’ve helped in the design process and been lucky enough to have a beautiful doll handmade for me by Apple Treehouse. (yes! its for me! and i might share with the new baby….maybe)

Apple Treehouse DOll

Even my commissions have baby girls on the brain! Right now, i’m working on a custom illustrated growth chart on a wood board for a beautiful little girl named Emily.

growth chart

The artwork at the top of this post, “Pixie Flowers”, is my latest piece and has a softer, gentler side of color than i usually put out there. But what can i say? i’m sorta channeling a bright white nursery with billowing sheer curtains, soft white fur rug and airy art like this in huge white mats with punchy, bright colored bamboo frames on the walls.

In about 3 weeks, i’ll find out if my peanut is actually a boy or girl.

You’ll be able to tell by any new work that i post after the verdict is handed down whether or not the majority has been guessing correctly.

It’ll either be more of the same femininity….or a major shift based on news of a little boy. i can’t help it. That’s how my creativity rolls.


addendum: the US map in the bottom of the last photo is my work and the finished print is available in my shop. thanks for the nice comments!