In Praise of Small Closets

image by pennylanewhitneyj – click for more info

My closet shrank.

Moved to a bigger house, ended up with smaller closets. I could get some fancy clothes-containment system, spread out into my hub’s unused closet space, store under the bed. But, no. I’m editing.

The smaller my wardrobe gets, the more I like it.

It’s lean and lovely and somehow feels more abundant.

How does less feel like more? How does less feel more rich?

Less gets focused. Going small means I like every item in there. It means no duds. No ill-fitters. No waste. It means never a bad choice.

It also means practicing building the life I want. Gettin’ spiritual in my lil’ ole closet. I want simple. I want beautiful. I want what I need without a lot of excess to make the hinges hurt. And I can create that for myself with something as simple as shirts and shoes.

Finding metaphors in your microfibre? Air your laundry in the comments.

Gathering light,

Quitting Money: crazy? or free? or crazy free?

print by unreadble - click image for more info

My relationship with money has been evolving. In large part due to running a creative business, I’ve gotten more comfortable with money. I’m more involved, more responsible, more aware. I enjoy spending and earning money in ways that feel good.

Still, sometimes I fantasize about not needing money at all. And not because I’m afraid of it or don’t want to deal. It’s because I’m genuinely curious about what life might be like without it.

Money is a human invention. What if I simply rejected using the invention?

(Yes, I was one of those kids who read “Walden” in high school and daydreamed about my own “Into the Wild” adventure.)

This week I heard a radio interview with a man who stopped daydreaming and actually quit interacting with money. Twelve years ago, Daniel Suelo left his last $30 in a phone booth, and hasn’t had a financial transaction since. Sometimes he works, but he never accepts money. He doesn’t panhandle or take donations. He doesn’t even barter. He lives in a cave, forages in dumpsters and the wild for food, and eats roadkill.

You may think that some moneyless dude who lives in a cave and has dead raccoon for dinner is a total nutter, but he’s educated. Mentally well. Principled. And refreshingly non-judgemental towards those of us who play the money game.

In his words, “I know it is possible to live with zero money. Abundantly.”

While Daniel’s lifestyle choice may be fascinating or worrisome or both to you, the real questions are: What do you truly need? What you do truly want? And are you willing to test assumptions to find what works for you?

Want to read more about Daniel? Check out “The Man Who Quit Money” by Mark Sundeen.

Gathering light,

The Courage to Prosper


Money is an emotional issue. It has to do with our deepest survival instincts. Some people are obsessed with money and measure their complete personal worth through their bank account, while others reject money as a source of evil, greedy, nasty capitalist values.

How to have a healthy, balanced relationship with money? There are countless books on the subject expressing every conflicting view imaginable.

Julia Cameron, in her book The Artist’s Way, describes what I feel is a positive view about creative work and money.

“What we really want to do is what we are really meant to do. When we do what we are meant to do, money comes to us, doors open for us, we feel useful, and the work we do feels like play to us.”
- Julia Cameron, The Artist’s Way

It is an essential truth: When you are doing what you most love to do, you are setting yourself up for the greatest flow of abundance and prosperity in your life.

I deeply believe that now, but it took me a long time to get there.

Now, I haven’t earned millions of dollars with my creative career, and I will not promise to give you the secret on how to do that (although there are plenty of other books and courses that make those sort of claims).

I may not be a millionaire, but I do feel that I lead an abundant, prosperous, rich, and fulfilling life. This feeling has to do with the fact that I get to do what I love every single day.

Yes, we all want to earn enough money to feel comfortable and have the things we want, but at the same time, I want you to remember this:

Leading an abundant, prosperous life is not solely dependent on money.

Thoreau put it this way:

“The cost of a thing is the amount of what I call life, which is required to be exchanged for it, immediately or in the long run.”
- Henry David Thoreau, Walden

“Well,” you may be thinking, “that’s all good and fine, Stephanie and Henry, but somebody around here has got to pay the rent and buy the groceries.”

You are right. However, I want you to keep in mind that the goal is to create a beautiful, flowing life full of joy and color and love.

Money is part of that equation, and, some might argue, a big part of that equation. But money alone will not buy you happiness.

Our views on money are often influenced by how our family feels about money and finances. As an adult, you may now have similar views about money as your parents, or you may have rejected their ideas completely. Or you may be struggling somewhere in between.

A few people grow up believing there is plenty of money to go around, more than enough, and that it is easy to earn all you need doing exactly whatever you want in life.

If you grew up this way with a positive outlook towards money, you are very lucky. Most of us have psychological issues from our past revolving around money. These issues – positive or negative – influence our current feelings about money.

Over the years, I have learned that the more positive, relaxed, and trustful I can be about money, the more of it flows in my direction. Showing generosity, gratitude, and appreciation towards others, and learning to network and form mutually supportive relationships – rather than competing – have all been important factors in this equation.

If you get too stressed out and negative about money, you will turn people off.

When you send out signals of desperation and panic, people will not want to buy your creative products and services.

It is sometimes hard to do, but you must get yourself in a positive, confident state before people will want to work with you and send you money.

If you are someone who, deep down, feels guilty for receiving money in exchange for your creative work, remember that the more money you receive, the more you can also help other people who are doing creative things. As you become successful, you will have greater opportunities to support others who are doing their own creative work.

“While prosperous thinking means many things to people, basically it gives you the power to make your dreams come true, whether those dreams are concerned with better health, increased financial success, a happier personal life, more education and travel, or a deeper spiritual life.”
– Catherine Ponder, Open Your Mind to Prosperity

Don’t underestimate the power of taking a few small steps each day to reach your goals. As a creative, thoughtful individual, be open to your own exciting and brilliant ideas. These are exactly the creative ideas you need to make more money.

Start by making notes and acting on at least three small steps towards earning money with your creative work today.

A few first steps could be:

  • brainstorming creative services or products you could offer to fulfill a need that isn’t being met.
  • collecting ideas about local and/or online opportunities to show and sell your work or creative services.
  • listing media possibilities to publicize your work and make valuable contacts (blogs, magazines, websites).
  • researching classes you’d like to teach or attend to help you get the skills and information you need (online/offline).
  • contacting successful people in your field you want to meet, interview, or assist.

Here’s what Seth Godin, in his thought-provoking book Unleashing the Ideavirus, has to say:

“…if you can get people to accept and embrace and adore and cherish your ideas, you win. You win financially, you gain power and you change the world in which we live… Ideas, not products, are the engine of our new economy.”
- Seth Godin, Unleashing the Ideavirus

What special something can you offer the world that people want, need, and are willing to pay for? It could be something you make with your hands, like a craft or artwork – or it could be skills or ideas that you teach or provide others.

When you are doing what you most love to do, and you are sharing your gifts with the world to help others – you will ultimately find your greatest financial success and personal rewards.

Know that it is possible to earn money with your creative work. If you’re not earning as much money as you want just yet, be patient. Don’t accept the opinion of anyone who tells you it is impossible, because it’s not.

Find your voice, live your passions, muster up your personal courage, and celebrate your creative work. Prosperity loves fresh, creative ideas, and abundance follows courage.

xoxo
Stephanie

P.S. I’m sending you heaps of creativity and courage from Europe today! You are personally invited to join our community of creative, courageous women meeting here, starting up April 9.

embracing the joy of abundance: the art of earning

In just a couple of weeks, entrepreneurs from all over the country will be attending and tuning in virtually to The Art of Earning LIVE in Philly. One of those fantastic folks is L’Erin Alta-Devki, who took some time recently to share how the ideas behind The Art of Earning have changed her business – and her life.

- – -

When I worked for Microsoft, the biggest, most successful software company on the planet, I brought home a beautiful paycheck and despised every other aspect of my job. I’ve also worked for small, community-focused non-profits whose work I loved but who paid me so little, I had to get second (and sometimes third) jobs to keep a roof over my head.

In my world there seemed to be only two options: compromise my dreams, be miserable, make great money OR stick to my guns, be fulfilled, and flounder financially.

I knew a happy middle ground existed; I just needed a roadmap to help me get there.

Enter “The Art of Earning,” Tara’s brilliant love letter to the capitalist world. This glowing dispatch laserbeams through fluff and fat to illuminate the wild, pulsing truth at the heart of the matter: We all deserve to be happy, to transform the world with our gifts, to embody a relationship to wealth that ignites who we think we are and what we’re on the planet to do. We ARE the helm of the new economy.

This ain’t about squeezing into the little cages someone else marked ‘Success’ and hoping that happiness eventually comes along.

“The Art of Earning” is about centering me, my dreams and my passions in the core of my contributions. It is about sharing my most sacred gifts and most holy offerings as part of the global stimulus package. These experiences transform people’s lives, make me radiate with unbridled joy, AND allow generating money to be a beautiful, fulfilling, revolutionary process.

Tara is a rock star teacher, a visionary philosopher and compassionate money evolutionary, blazingly changing the way we understand ourselves, our worth and our roles in creating abundance.

L’Erin Alta-Devki is the freedom muse and life alchemist extraordinaire at SisterFire. She helps women harness their power and create lives they love.
- – -

The Art of Earning LIVE is Tara’s most complete business training to date: a day long workshop in the heart of Philadelphia. Join us from the comfort of your home office or kitchen table. Virtual tickets are on sale until Tuesday, February 21.

best of… laura simms: say goodbye to a million dollars

Let’s take a look back on 2011 – the posts that inspired, challenged, and encouraged us. Today, re-think your benchmarks with Laura Simms’ post from August.

print by jhulligan – click image for more info

“I want to make a million dollars.”

That’s the number, isn’t it? The number that bounces out when we think about big money and how much we need to feel successful and secure.

It’s like we’re pre-programmed; when we ask ourselves, “How much money do I want?” our brains search the database, locate the file, and boop! One million dollars pops on the screen and out of our mouths.

I don’t know about you, but for me, thinking of a million dollars is like thinking about the universe being infinite; I understand intellectually, but it’s too abstract to feel in my bones. All those zeroes don’t add up to any meaning, and it’s hard to work towards the meaningless.

So let’s scrap the million dollar mark.

Goodbye, infinite space. Hello, ground beneath our feet.

Once you’ve let the million go, there’s room for you to make real money. Money that is meaningful, tangible, and more than enough to support you. Get real about what you need, what you want, and what those numbers really are. Then you can set a new benchmark that’s personalized, connected, and meaningful.

You still want your million? Girl, go get it. But build to it from where you are. If you’re not clear how to make your first $100, $1,000, or $100,000, work that out first. Then it’s infinite space for you.

Will you adjust your benchmark? Let us know in the comments.

Gathering light,