On Saturday, I was procuring my second iced latte of the day at the mall and, as I reached across the counter to hand the barista my card, she squealed “I love your bracelet!”
“Oh, thanks!” I exclaimed. “A friend of mine made it.”
We can’t say that about most things you buy. We don’t have a personal relationship with your stuff or the people who make it.
They don’t look like us, talk like us, or live like us. That’s not necessarily a bag thing but it does mean we don’t feel a personal connection to it either. In general, you don’t treat that stuff with nearly as much reverence as when you can say:
A friend of mine made it.
A lot of people would say that we shouldn’t have a relationship with the things we buy, that we should concentrate on buying less, that consumption is a disease that infects modern society. And I understand where they’re coming from. But I also know how it feels to surround yourself with beautiful things. Your stuff can give you self-confidence and inspire you. Your stuff can bring out your edge or remind your of family & friends.
Stuff has a big impact on our lives.
It’s hard to ignore that. So I don’t, I choose to embrace the special impact that some stuff has.
The lesson here is simple but twofold.
1.) I think it’s great to be able to say “a friend of mind made that” on a daily basis. So make sure you take your handmade items for a spin more often. Don’t save them for special occasions or play it safe with known labels. Your handmade goodies are for everyday display no matter how special they are.
Eat on the dishes, wear the hat, adorn yourself with the jewelry, string the garland. Use & love the stuff that loves you back.
2.) Make friends with your favorite makers. Check out who lives in your area. Attend trunk shows, send friendly emails, and leave comments on their blogs. Makers are people too. And they appreciate when you say:
A friend of mine made it!
For this week’s We Scout Wednesday post about a special maker friend or item that makes you say “a friend of mine made it!” Post on your blog, your Twitter stream, on Facebook, on Flickr… tell us why it’s special and what it means to you. Please include a link back here to this post (http://www.scoutiegirl.com/2010/09/relationship-with-stuff.html).
Then post your link in the Mister Linky below. When you’re through, be sure to check out other special friends & goodies from WSW participants.[ stuffed dolls by littleclouds ]