plugging the holes: what’s holding you back?

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They leak.
They leach.
They keep you comfortable,
but anxious.
They don’t let you grow.

They’re holes.

Holes in your attention, focus, strategy, stamina.

Wee ones. Gaping ones. Some that you invite daily, others that crept in.

Where are the holes in your life? Your business?

Where are you losing energy, opportunities, relationships, dollars?

Is it…?
social media
lack of planning
lack of execution
lack of support
fear of failure
scattered focus
poor prioritization
social commitments
family obligations
low energy
poor health

Today, make a commitment to identify the holes in your work & life.

This week, commit to make changes around one. Find a plug that fits, and do your best to keep it in place.

How will you plug the holes that are holding you back?

Brainstorm in the comments below.

Gathering light,

10 thoughts on “plugging the holes: what’s holding you back?

  1. I never thought of it this way, Laura, but I love it. I didn’t realize ’til I read this…but I have indeed been plugging holes this year. I decided at the beginning of 2011, this was going to be The Year for my business. The year the struggling came to an end and the soaring began. I’m not quite soaring yet and in a lot of ways, it feels like I’ve not made much progress (transformation is not a quick process!) but…reading this…the realization hit me hard: Not only have I been bailing on the ship and plotting a new course…I have been plugging holes.

    A few of my major ones: 1) My utter inability to say no when others ask me to do something 2) the assumption of others that because I don’t have a 9-5, I’m available whenever and 3) my complete lack of a plan (other than…hmmm…hmmm…what can I do to sell my art TODAY…which is not really a plan at all). I realized that 2) probably had a lot to do with 1) so I sat down with my loved ones and we had a nice long and emotional discussion about how I LOVE doing stuff for them…but can’t keep dropping whatever whenever. I was really expecting them to stay within boundaries I’d never set until that point. So, now, unless it’s an emergency, when someone wants me to do something for them during my work hours…they ask in advance. No more calling the morning of to say “can you take today off to do this for me?” Everyone (myself included) seems to understand that to make my business work I have to work these extraneous things into my schedule…not work my schedule around them. Since then, things have been going swimmingly on that front. HOLE PLUGGED.

    I’m a people pleaser so saying no is hard but I have, indeed, since then said no to some things instead of sacrificing what I wanted/needed to do to make time for someone else’s desires as I would’ve done in the past. (And yes, those “no”s still do cause some guilt, but I push past it.) HOLE PLUGGED.

    And finally, for the first time in five years, I have an actual, real deal I-know-what-I’m-doing-and-no-one-is-stopping-me business plan. HOLE PLUGGED.

    Now I suppose I need to work on my inner doubtmonster…which is a hole that can quickly drain the no-one-is-stopping me attitude and fast. I’ve found that just DOING shuts him up. Want to tackle something that seems impossible? Don’t even START thinking about all the reasons it won’t work. Just jump in, start swimming and don’t look back.

    I shudder to think of how long this comment is gonna be…but you did say to brainstorm, right? 😉

    1. Kathy, this is great; I think it’s helpful for other readers to see your real life examples. Big congrats on seeing the holes (that part can be difficult) and the actions you’ve taken the plug ’em up.

  2. What an insightful article.
    I’m pretty sure my biggest ‘hole’ is fear. Fear of failure and some deep-rooted belief that I’m not one of those people who deserves to be happy or prosperous or successful. That’s something that I have to force myself past every single day. Unfortunately I have yet to find a cure for it so for now I’ll just keep moving forward and I’ll keep trying to tune out the ‘peanut gallery’.

  3. I think my biggest hole is lack of self worth, which is counter to the personality I present. So much so that it surprises me when I let myself be aware of it.

    I have found recently it helps me to look at it from a new perspective.

    I have a desire to make positive change in the world and peoples lives (so cliche but it is what it is).

    In order to do so I need resources financial, material, and in the form of connections and support.

    When I hinder my success with my art I am limiting my ability to do more and better work in the world.

    It flips the thinking around from I am not worthy to, who am I not to be awesome!

    Marianne Williamson wrote:

    “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”

    I know this in my heart, but it is so easy to forget.

  4. Gwyn Michael — sing it, sistah! I have that passage displayed at one of my home altars. You said it all so well, I can only stand up and give a ‘WOOT!’

    All good things,
    kimberely @unshakablesoul

  5. Thanks a zillion for bringing this brilliant concept to my attention! I’m busy developing my largest, personal project ever, and I often find myself feeling really ‘flat’ for no obvious reason.

    But from today, this list changes everything! Now I have a simple set of tools to identity where or what’s causing ‘leaks’ in my work (and life). That first step is the most important in my opinion. How I deal with the leaky holes following that? Well, I’ll just have to cross those bridges when I get there:)

  6. FANTASTIC–really! I know it’s a “hole” when I think of the topic and I sink a little lower or slump over my shoulders.

    I feel so lucky but also proud for how hard I am continuing to work to make my dreams a reality. The one gaping hole is financial security. I actually made a commitment to myself today to make it a reality! First I have to stop hiding, then I can start empowering.

    It’s starts with a dollar, and then two, and then four, and then eight, etc.

    Why are we so often afraid of total and complete abundance of wealth? (and I am not talking money wealth on that one :) )

    Thanks for the visual–it’s encouraging!
    xoxo, Andrea
    brand & bloom

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