Got something to say?
You’re in luck, because today is the day to say it.
I’m declaring today Declarative Statement Day.
A day just to say whatever you gotta say.
I admit, saying things outright doesn’t come easily to me. Sometimes it has just plain hurt.
This may be a generalization, but I’ll hazard a guess that if you’re human (and especially if you’re female), this pattern may come up for you, too.
It sneaks into conversation in the slyest of ways.
For example, conversations about date night in our home used to go like this:
Me: “Honey, would you like to get Mexican tonight?”
Honey: “Are you saying that you would like to get Mexican tonight?”
In fact, that’s EXACTLY what I was saying without realizing that I was shaping my statement of my desire into a question – a question about what someone else wanted.
I looked deeper and found that I was mitigating what I wanted in ways both large and small. Not only was I couching my dinner cravings in questions, but I was also letting my deepest, biggest desires die in my throat.
I know I’m not alone in having this pattern. I’ve observed it in others, too, and the funny thing I discovered was that those of us who speak this way can interpret it, too. I know what the questions really mean. I get the understatements. I’m hip to the subtext, the between the lines.
Perhaps we’re just trying to be gentle. Perhaps we’re unaware of our conditioning.
It’s no secret that assertiveness and aggressiveness get confused, but there is no violence in simply stating what you want.
Not speaking your desires is a violence to yourself.
Not only for your dreams and wants, but for your creativity.
If I can’t say what I want for dinner, then how can I possibly put a bold brushstroke on the page?
If I can’t name how I’d like to spend an afternoon, then how can I lay down the lines of a brave poem?
If I can’t state my dreams out loud, then how can I create the framework to make them happen?
I’ve heard that how we do one thing is how we do everything.
That’s why I’ve declared today Declarative Statement Day.
A day to pay close attention to our language. To how we put ourselves into the world through our words.
A day to declare, state, say our thoughts and desires in ways that are bold, solid, fearless, and free.
I declare today Declarative Statement Day.
What are you going to say?