Congruence. Alignment. Growth. Creating the life you want, creating a life that reflects your values.
These are some of the things we’ve been talking about at Scoutie Girl lately. It’s hard work. I know, because I’ve been doing it. Shifting the tectonic plates. Realigning my planets. It’s no easy feat — even just on the internal level.
I’ve been expanding, stretching, digging deep. Having epiphanies and getting my yoga on. Seeking wise mentors. Making some very satisfying creative work. I’ve been feeling wide open, expansive, bright, and vital.
I’ve also been reaching out for old habits and behaviors. Comfort food instead of green juice. Arguments instead of taking a deep breath. I’ve been experiencing emotional eruptions that surprise even myself.
I’ve been growing and changing and learning. I’ve also been shaking my fists and regressing.
I thought that these two states were counter to each other. Then I realized that they belong together. Counterbalance.
The messy stuff doesn’t negate the good stuff. The messy stuff is just a call for comfort.
Old habits and old ways of being — for better or for worse, they are known entities. They are soothing and familiar at a time when everything is fresh, new, exhilarating but unknown.
Growth isn’t all grace and epiphany. There’s a reason why caterpillars build themselves a cocoon before they change into butterflies.
Growth and change can be messy. Growth and change can demand comfort, privacy, and protection.
My mind and my body are looking out for me (yours, too!). They are looking for ways to provide that comfort and release, be it tater tots, a good cry, or sleeping in late. They are reaching for things I know — even if they’re not what I want right now.
I’m committing to consciously providing myself healthy comfort. To look for ways to support myself ahead of time as well as in the moment. And to be forgiving of whatever messy stuff does come up — to observe it without judgement.
What might little bits of comfort look like? I’ll be seeking out things that make me laugh. Making dates with blankets and tea. Seeking more time on the yoga mat. Creating rituals of leisure. Turning off my computer and hiding my phone. Going to bed early and in my favorite jammies.
Are you going through a period of growth and change, too? Are you working to create the life you want — both inside and out?
It’s okay to give yourself space to honor this growth and change and acknowledge how momentous it is.
It’s okay to rest and comfort yourself, consciously, in ways that feel congruent with the great work you are doing.