The Other Side of “Do What You Say You’re Going to Do”

Do what you say you’re going to do.
Do what you say you’re going to do.
Do what you say you’re going to do.

For me, this is the hardest of all life principles. But it’s a mantra that Danielle LaPorte lives, works, and plays by.

I get down on myself for not doing what I say I’m going to do: for not following up, for not keeping in touch, for not delivering by my self-imposed deadline. I beat myself up and question my own worthiness.

But the lesson here is not as simple as “do what you say you’re going to do. And if you don’t do it, you don’t deserve to move forward.” The lesson is:

Don’t say what you’re not going to do.

The lesson is to learn when enough is enough, when soon is really too soon, when good intentions are just a cover for disinterest.

“I’ll call you tomorrow.” . . . “I’ll send you the link.” . . . “I’ll do my best.” If you don’t mean it with every bone in your body, then just don’t say it. Pause. Say thank-you. Say how you feel. Say nothing at all. Habitual convo-filler sucks wind. I can’t scientifically prove it, but empty promises are bad for the ozone.
— Danielle LaPorte, The Fire Starter Sessions

Pause. That’s something I need to do more often. Think before I speak. Clear the calendar before I commit.

Maybe you do too?

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6 thoughts on “The Other Side of “Do What You Say You’re Going to Do”

  1. This is something I decided to do a few years ago. I was tired of saying or hearing things like, “Let’s hang out” or “I’ll call you” etc. when I knew neither of us really meant it. So now, I only say it when I mean it. And when I say it, I remember, so I actually do call or make a plan to hang out. If the other person didn’t mean it, that’s fine. I did my part and saying it doesn’t feel fake.

  2. I am a firm believer in this, too. However, lately I have had a few problems with follow through and missing some deadlines. I think it’s because my schedule is more full than normal (getting married very soon!) and I’m used to trying to make everyone happy (bad idea anyway.) So, now, I’m late, I’m missing things, I don’t get to things in time. I just need to be honest with myself and what it is possible for me to actually accomplish.

  3. I’m totally on board too! Some years ago I realized how much better the world would be if people would just do what they say they’re going to do. Of course, nobody’s perfect in this, but it’s not really that complicated, right? Kim’s right: honesty is key.

  4. Very good advice not to overcommit yourself. I think another important thing along these lines is recommitting or establishing new commitments. So, when you inevitably say you’ll do things that you don’t end up doing, acknowledge the broken commitment and make a new, more realistic one.

  5. What a great and inspiring read? I clearly go by this idea of accomplishing what you promise. Over-promising is nothing, we just have to be determined to do what we say! Zealously written short and sweet post..thanks for sharing!

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