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my own fears & personal neuroses
things i fear:
- talking on the telephone
- meeting new people
- spiders & creepy crawly things
- lola being hurt
- never finding the one thing i love doing more than anything else
things i don’t fear:
- talking in front of large groups
- telling others what i think
- talking about myself on the internet
after yesterday’s post on labels and two weeks of observation on my ecourse, i know that fear is a big part of what propels us forward and what holds us back. wow, that’s a silly statement. of course that’s what fear does!
it’s in our genes. its that thing that makes us run from the predators and protect the people we value.
but aside from spiders, i’m not too afraid of predators – animal or otherwise. i’m afraid of potentials, of could-bes, of worst-case-scenarios. sometimes i’m so poisoned by fear that i can’t pick up the phone to talk to my own family, or finish a grad school application, or buy a child seat for my bike so that lola can take a ride. fear can overwhelm and consume me about the silliest things, things that won’t happen, things that i simply make up.
on the other hand, i do a lot of things that frankly scare people sh*tless. whether it’s tell my personal stories online, offer services that i’ve taught myself, or speak to a room full of professionals, there are many times when i have no mechanism for fear at all. i simply do & say and never think twice.
the people who inspire me most are the people who have seemingly no fear while simultaneously channeling that deep fear-like feeling into positive results. the people who have made big leaps of faith, who are working to make their dreams come true on a daily basis – no matter what work that might entail.
among those people who inspire me for their fearlessness is danielle laporte, who’s been making crazy news lately. of course, crazy news is a well-timed event focused on her latest business venture – this woman has crazy mad confidence and skills and seemingly zero fear. and because she’s so fear.less, i found out about a new magazine project through her called: fear.less.
danielle has this (from fear.less) to say when she’s talking to others about their fear:
We’re a culture of fear because we’re a culture of conformity. I’m a Zen master when it comes to fear with my entrepreneurial clients. I get out the cane and whack it and tell them, “Get over it.” I ask, “Do you want to be scared or do you want to be broke? Do you want to be scared, or do you want to move forward?”
now this is no business blog, this is a blog about finding your passion and your inherent creativity. so let me ask you, “do you want to be scared or do you want to be dull & stagnate?” danielle might ask you the same.
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are you ready to move beyond fear?
i think that, for many people, there is deep fear associated with allowing yourself to find your true passion – that thing that makes you want to explode with joy. what if you find your passion and people won’t respect your for it? what if you find your passion and you’re actually no good at it? what if you find your passion and you just can’t pursue it? these are honest questions. if you allow yourself to embrace that fear, to let yourself get full of fear – fear.full – you can use it to do things you’ve not dreamed of.
if you’re fear.full, you channel fear into an powerful force.
if you’re fear.full, you dig deep to bring your creativity to the surface.
if you’re fear.full, you get desperate and make big things happen fast.
if you’re fear.less, you focus on your strengths, nurturing them until they overcome your weaknesses.
if you’re fear.less, you don’t let others lay fear over you.
if you’re fear.less, you find that true place in your spirit where only you reside.
being fearful is boring
i am not a believer in “fate” or “plans” or “destiny” so i have let fears and lack-there-of push me to succeed when i had no hope for much else in my life. i don’t have a safe place to fall back on where “everything works out in the end,” i either embrace fear and dig in – or release fear and move quickly forward. i have no time for being fearful (see word-play above).
when people ask me how i do everything that i do, how i’ve learned what i’ve learned, what they’re asking is what do i do with my fear. i let go of my fear of succeeding at what i truly love to do and embrace my fear of being boring. works like a charm.
what about you? are you waiting on outside forces to bring you your creative passion? or are you embracing/releasing your fear and getting down & dirty?
how has fear influenced your creative process?
fear.less is a completely free – and awesome – magazine to download and features essays by some amazing, world-changing people! i highly recommend it.