Do Idols and Role Models Limit Our Potential?

The Golden Animals By Adam & Lucy
The Golden Animals By Adam & Lucy

I have a half-read book siting on my nightstand: Add More ~ing to Your Life by Gabrielle Bernstein.

It’s been sitting there for quite some time – since 2010, to be precise – not because I didn’t enjoy it, but because I was not ready for the truth within its pages.

I picked it up yesterday morning and turned it straight to the page titled, “Releasing: Romantic Illusions.

The following quote hit me like a loving, but firm, hand against the back of my head.

“Idols are limits. They are the belief that there are forms that will bring happiness…decide for idols and you ask for loss.” – A Course in Miracles.

While this quote definitely resonated with me in relation to romance, it also struck me in the business, professional, and creative sense.

How is my inclination to seek out creative/lifestyle business idols or role models limiting my potential?

The belief that once I achieve [insert name here]-level of success, that then I will have “arrived” craps on what my true path may be.

If I’m busy chasing someone else’s reality, how will I ever find my own?

Idols are limits.

Yes, they tell you: “This is possible.” But often they are so beautiful, shiny, and seductive that what we fail to hear is “…and so much more, if you follow your own path.”

What idols do you have in your life? How do your idols aid and/or inhibit your growth?

3 thoughts on “Do Idols and Role Models Limit Our Potential?

  1. This definitely resonated with me. I basically feel like I can’t move forward unless I have an “idol” to tell me how to do it, and when there are holes in the narrative of what to do, I get panicked. I’ve lost any sense of how to create my own path – that creating your own path is even a possibility.

    I think it’s good to see that there are people out there who are doing what you want to do – or something like what you want to do. But there has to be some place where you sit down with yourself and figure out what that looks like and not when you’re staring straight at your “idol.” It doesn’t work the same for everyone, so that just seems like a path to failure. But I need to find a way to realize in my heart the things I’m writing here.

  2. I just bought her second book last night, but am also catching up on the ones that inspired her. I agree about role models. I’ve been trying to find one, but nobody really is doing what I do, or even close to who I’d like to model. I guess there comes a point when you say, I gotta be the model! (Easier said than done!)

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