Last week Tara Gentile shared a thoughtful post here on Scoutie Girl all about creating a lifestyle that is authentic to you.
It spoke to me, because I’m there. I’ve been thinking a lot lately about authenticity, harmony, congruence. About whether my values, desires, and what I want from life actually match up with my..yeah, life!
The one I’m living. Right now. Not the one I’m almost living, planning on living, or thinking about creating.
So, like Tara, I’m looking at the larger picture, the lifestyle picture. The location. The home. The jobs. The relationships. While there are so many foundational things perfectly in place, there are many things that just don’t fit.
That’s what happens when you start to take a close, close look at congruence.
What is incongruent inevitably rises to the surface. And floats there.
It’s been uncomfortable to sit with that knowledge.
If you’re like me, trying to wrap your head around how to bring congruence to the most massive aspects of your life might be overwhelming.
My head was spinning with all of it. And then I had an insight.
I can find congruence right now. It’s in each moment.
I’m not talking about making small, incremental changes toward your large goals. I’m not talking about saving up to buy the home that feels right in the right town, or methodically working toward your dream job. That’s another post for another time.
I’m talking about finding congruence, harmony, authenticity right this second, not only in what you’re doing, but in the how.
I may already be doing something that’s part of my life design, but am I going about it in a way that supports my values and desires?
It’s in the tiniest of daily choices (which apple should I buy? what book will I read?) and also in the attitudes, qualities, and awareness we bring to each interaction.
How I listen to my husband. How I speak to my children. How I brush my teeth.
How I practice yoga. How I prepare food. How I meet new people.
How I make art, or write. How I treat myself. How I clean my house.
I do these things every day. I get to choose how. I get to take a deep breath, and ask myself:
Am I doing this thing in a way that is congruent with how I want to create my life? If not, can I find a way to create alignment?
Am I bringing openness, patience, love, and expansiveness to these interactions? Or tension, hurriedness, aloofness, self-punishment?
The moment is right now, the moment is what is happening, the moment is something I can’t put off until the future. This moment is the time for me to be authentic. To find harmony. To create congruence.
Here’s to you finding congruence, right now, in this moment.