Complaints and Requests: Two Halves of a Whole

Push Me! II By Anderaz

There’s a saying that I absolutely love:

Every complaint you have is a request you haven’t made.

I believe this statement, but I sometimes still get caught in the BS of complaining about things I could have fixed by simply opening my mouth to prevent issues.

When someone asks your opinion of something, despite the tingling in your gut that tells you something is NOT right, do you ever shrug, make a non-committal noise, or, as is the case with me, say, “That’s fine”?

For me, not listening to my gut or speaking my truth are the quickest ways for me to get into trouble.

Speaking your truth will help you avoid both internal and external conflicts.

Are you ever firmly against a new initiative, process, or practice at work, but don’t speak your true opinion before it is implemented? Perhaps you’re the first person to offer an, “I knew it” or, “I told you so” after it doesn’t work.

Let me know ask you: How do I-knew-its and I-told-you-sos help the situation?

If you have concerns in the beginning about the viability of a new procedure, and you don’t express those, you are responsible for the failure.

Complaints and requests go hand in hand.

Complaints are reactive, whereas requests are proactive.

We should take a proactive approach to life in order to limit our complaints and to live our truths.

How do you proactively limit the amount of complaints in your life? How are you working to eliminating any ongoing complaints you have?

4 thoughts on “Complaints and Requests: Two Halves of a Whole

  1. I have long held the belief that if something isn’t “right” — won’t work, doesn’t make sense, has flaws, is a good idea but needs tweaking…you get the idea — that I’d rather do or say something that can make it work, make it better or take it off the table completely. I can complain or I can do what I can to make something better. Yes, I’ve complained…it’s human nature. But on the issues where it matters and offering a solution or an alternative will make something that’s “not quite right” something better I’d much rather offer that alternative than sit back and say “well I knew that wasn’t going to work”. It’s too “easy” to say nothing or offer something positive or as you said, pro-active after the fact. It’s much harder and much more challenging to say “it’s good but what if we did this?”…but so much more rewarding.

  2. When ‘your suggestion’ gets labeled – it is hard to offer it again.
    In personal situations I tend to just shrug and keep my mouth shut.
    Even when voiced as just my opinion, because I was ASKED for my opinion, and give my OPINION honestly with a positive spin, I hesitate to even open my mouth. Hard to have an opinion when you really are not trusted to HAVE one!

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