Apologies Unneccesary

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A while back, I saw photos from The Art of Earning LIVE in Philly. Seeing myself in some of the pictures, I was reminded that I tend not to photograph well.

I always think I’m smiling, and I’m not. I think I’m standing like everyone else, and I’m not. I think I’m looking relaxed, and I’m not.

What photographers tend to do, in these pictures of which I’m not always fond, is to capture a real part of who I am: weird, off-kilter, socially unaware.

And that’s ok.

I won’t apologize for it. You shouldn’t, either.

Apologize for yourself, I mean.

Accept who you are; own the uncomfortable and outrageous parts of yourself and run with them. Stop trying to be someone other than you are, because the people who really matter adore the real you.

You are who you are and that’s ok.

Embrace it.

Even if it means looking weird in photos.

9 thoughts on “Apologies Unneccesary

  1. Thanks for the reminder. Like you I never seem to look good in a photo. My hair never even looks the same color! guess it has a reflection that bounces or something, but it looks odd every time. I hate having my picture taken and still do BUT you reminded me that I am weird in many ways, but loved anyway. Thank you!

  2. I find it nearly impossible to pose normally or make a normal face in photos. I just can’t do it. I have a few in which I took one for the team and smiled like a normal human being, because they’re wedding party photos, or some such. And one time I worried that I’d one day be 40 and have no normal pictures and my future children would be horrified to learn through the magic of photos that their mother was completely insane, so I took some normals. But for the most part, when someone tries to get my attention to take my picture, my instinct is to immediately look as certifiable as possible. So, my eyes are bugging out and my mouth is agape, or my lip is curled and one eyebrow up, or just looking generally mental. Uuuugh. But, seeing old pictures of my dad, who passed away many years ago, reminds me that it’s genetic and there was no hope for me from the start, which is a sweet and comforting feeling. That dude was creative with his face.

  3. I love this–thank you! And Sarah–I’d love to see all those face gymnastics in action. Thanks for the fun, and the reminder to rock it, however it is “you.”

  4. This article is great! I’m what I like to call awkwardly charming, where I am a good person and I try to be kind to everyone so therefore they generally forgive me for being socially stunted.

    1. I like that, Jacqui – “awkwardly charming.” It suits me perfectly, too! At least, I hope I’m charming and not just awkward 😉

      It’s also good to remember that other people usually don’t see us as being quite as weird as WE think we are, and that when we own our weirdnesses it can become endearing. Quirky people are interesting people!

  5. I’m guilty of this as well. I wear my emotions on my face, so I actually don’t even need to use words. However, my casual shots tend to portray my face looking very unfriendly/uninterested. Oh well…..that’s my only face.

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